Wednesday, January 11, 2006

Guy-Girl friendship types

Today I received a really cool forward.... Kudos to the author... whoever he is... (I think a guy wrote it :) ... Here it is!

Guys and girls being "just" friends.
Not always easy, and sure as hell complicated at times.

But yet, its fun. There are things that you just don't talk about with your guy friends.
That's where the girl steps in, sweet, caring, sensitive - the little angels (hah!).

There's also a certain playful element to these friendships that you just can't have with people of the same sex.

Here are some of the types of friendships that exist between guys and girls.

1: The Appeaser friendship
This is when the guy is head over heals for the girl.
Worships the ground she walks on. Praises her all the time. Buys her gifts for no reason.
Loves to secretly smell her hair. Agrees with everything she says, and does everything in his power to see that she is happy.
Now and then gets a pat on the head in return.
Dreams of fathering her children - will never get farther than perhaps having to baby-sit them.
Might also have aspects of a Use-and-abuse friendship.

2: Leave-you-hanging friendship
Guy sees girl. Guy thinks girl is cute.
Guy becomes friends with girl. Guy tells girl his feelings for her.
Girl acts surprised. Girl might say "I'm not ready for a relationship right now".
Girl conveniently forgets to mention that she doesn\'t like him in that way, and never will for that matter.
Girl and guy still remain friends. Guy is hoping girl will eventually fall for him, or will become "ready" for a relationship. Never happens.
Girl is just happy with the attention he lavishes on her - ego boost.

3: The Missed-Chance friendship
Guy and girl are great friends. There always was a spark, the chemistry was there.
For reasons unknown to them, they always held a special place in each other's lives.
No one acted upon it though, and before you know it, girl gets married.
Guy is still friends with girl - thinks the world of her.
Friendship grows even stronger.

4: The Relationship-that's-not-quite-a-relationship friendship
Guy and girl think they are best friends.
While in fact, they are in a non-physical relationship.
They do everything a couple does. Go to movies together, have candle-light dinners, strolls on the beach, endless phone conversations etc etc.
But no one has admitted their feelings.
Both are in denial that there is anything but a friendship going on.
The rest of the world is sure they are going out.
For the life of them, they can't understand why.

5: The Use-and-abuse friendship
Guy is in love with girl.
Girl knows this and loves the power she has.
Takes advantage of poor guy, who is more than happy that he can be off service to her.
Girl uses guy cruelly, and the best part is, she gets him to 'volunteer' to do things for her. How?
"I have to drop off my dirty laundry to the laundromat. But I'm so tired. I wish I didn't have to go?" Followed by fluttering of the eyes.
Before you can say "use-and-abuse", guy is already racing to the laundromat with her clothes.

6: The Complain-a-friend friendship
This is where the girl only remembers the guy, when she needs to complain about something.
She calls him, or meets him, simply to vent her problems.
Guy may try to slip in something about himself, but girl is too self-absorbed to realise that, and brings the topic back to her problems.
Girl keeps guy in check by telling him what a great listener he is, and none of her other friends are like that.
Guy gets his doggy biscuit.

7: The By-my-rules-only friendship
This friendship can be in conjunction with any of the other type of friendships.
Girl will only meet guy on her terms.
Girl has full rights to cancel appointments that she made herself last minute.
Girl also doesn't need to return any calls made by the guy, but guy must be available at the snap of her fingers.
Guy should expect nothing, except what girl decides to offer him.
Take it or leave it.

8: The cozy friendship
This is when guy and girl are great friends.
They're totally comfortable in each other's company, and have deep respect and trust for each other.
They can speak their mind, and be at ease with silence.
They don't get overly emotional, and respect each others space and time.
Can talk about absolutely anything under the sun.Guy and girl don't think of each other in a romantic way - never crosses their mind.
Has the potential to become ugly if one of them does start developing feelings.

9: The Hit-and-run friendship
This is an explosive friendship.
Guy and girl become friends very quickly.
They spend an insane amount of time together, and really dig each other's company.
Guy thinks girl likes him, and is leading him on.
Makes his move and professes his love for her.
She runs like there is no tomorrow.

Appendix: The ex-lover friendship
This type of friendship doesn't exist. Don't fool yourselves.
A guy and girl can't be just friends if they had a history together.

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This was a real fun forward, and reminds me about the article I wrote ... http://anupr.blogspot.com/2005/12/loving-friend-recently-i-joked-that.html
I feel that more often than not, guys and girls can't really be just friends.... and having a checklist like in today's post (although humorously tackled) would help a lot of people to identify the kind of friendship they're in.... they could avoid the heartbreak that yours truly went through recently....

Looking back at my own friendship that went wrong, (although I never told her that I loved her romantically, and although I will never know whether my affection for her was within the boundaries of friendship), I think that based on the checklist on today's post, it would be the following mixture -
1: The Appeaser friendship
The guy is head over heals for the girl. Worships the ground she walks on. Praises her all the time. Agrees with everything she says, and does everything in his power to see that she is happy. Now and then gets a pat on the head in return. ....... (this just shows that I liked her very much and wanted to see her happy.... not that I loved her romantically! :)

8: The cozy friendship
The guy and girl are great friends. They're totally comfortable in each other's company, and have deep respect and trust for each other. They can speak their mind, and be at ease with silence. Can talk about absolutely anything under the sun. Has the potential to become ugly if one of them does start developing feelings. .....( read yesterday's post on how things really got ugly! :)

9: The Hit-and-run friendship
This is an explosive friendship. Guy and girl become friends very quickly. They really dig each other's company. Guy professes his love for her. She runs like there is no tomorrow. ..... (I'm sure the author was talking of the guy professing romantic love for the girl.... in my case I professed a strong sense of affection for the girl.... and it still had the same effect! She ran like there's no tommorow! :)

Hope u had a few laughs! Ciao! Anup ;)

7 Comments:

Blogger Keshi said...

lol hitnrun frienship was funny!!

All r funny actually and portray true states of the girl-boy affairs :)


but this one caught my eye the most...LOL!

**25 years young... but feels like the weight of the whole world is on my shoulders... wait a sec, it's just these damn weights from the gym....

HAHAHA ur funny!


Keshi.

7:58 PM  
Blogger Ash said...

Hey hi there anup ....
really nice and covered all the kinds i guess .....
and really true states ....

good there are ppl who jpt down their thoughts and put them in writing so that the others can actualy read them

keep psoting more and more ...

Ash

8:04 PM  
Blogger Abused Poet said...

Ha. Wow, i deffinetly had a couple of these, more or so the first one unfortunatly, but w.e.!

1:46 AM  
Blogger anup.777 said...

Thanks for dropping by Keshi.... I'm glad someone found me funny! LOL :)

And thank you as well Ash... I'm gonna visit ur blog real soon....

1:46 AM  
Blogger The Untrodden said...

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4:49 AM  
Blogger Keshi said...

someone will always find u funny...:) keep writing...

Keshi.

5:20 PM  
Blogger fin said...

These are true....not matter the gender.

8:05 AM  

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