Wednesday, January 18, 2006

Affairs ...

Whilst surfing the net for intersting blogs, I came across this one: http://affairstory.blogspot.com/

It's about how an affair with a colleague breaks up a marriage ... it chronicles the consequences from this breach of the sanctity of marriage ... it offers a look at the mind of the man at the center of all this mess...

Start from the first post and keep going... and do go through the comments posted by other bloggers.... some are very nasty indeed... but as these comments come from people who are presently in affairs, or are sons/daughters of families torn apart by affairs, or by spouses of ones who were/are in an affair, they offer a lot of food for thought....

... And while I don't sympathize with the guy .... I do appreciate the honest way in which he has written it all down... the motivation... the feeling... the regret.... the sorrow... This blog, in my opinion captures another aspect of human frailty ...

Maybe someone's marriage could be saved from reading that guy's tale? ....

13 Comments:

Blogger Keshi said...

I didnt read his blog yet..but sounds like a silly thing for him to do...even if he's being honest now.

I mean if a guy wants to go ahead and have an affair with someone else while he has a wife sitting at home, there are 2 things we can say abt this:

1.He's not in love with his wife anymore and he has a good reason to fall for another woman.

2.He's a cheat who wants to keep both.

In the 1st situation he can be understood and maybe a separation will do good for both him and his wife.

If he's in the 2nd category, he should be given 'zilch' attention...but how do we know what he's writing in the blog is even true?


Keshi.

4:54 PM  
Blogger Ash said...

I don't really feel like reading teh affair blog thought i may go there because u have mentioned it here ...

but at Keshi said ...he is enjoying on all sides and thru his blog too ....could be very well a made up story with the hands and mind of an excellent writer ....


cay Anup
good day

10:54 PM  
Blogger anup.777 said...

Hi keshi! Hi Ash!
Ya, he may just be a very gifted writer... but, there is stuff in there that even if completely false, really makes one think...

I definitely do not condone his actions and I hate the fact that a family was broken up.... but, given that affairs do happen and nowadays it happens too often... we get a peek into the mindset of a person who could do such a thing...

I'll follow this post with one on what I think of marriages... I think that would put two stark extremes into perspective...

5:35 AM  
Blogger Keshi said...

I agree with Ash....he could be a gifted writer just wanting to get some attention in rather a cheap way...


**but, given that affairs do happen and nowadays it happens too often.

yes it happens too often...but not if ppl think twice b4 they jump into desire...there r still some wise ppl left in this world...:)

Keshi.

4:34 PM  
Blogger anup.777 said...

"there r still some wise ppl left.."
Guess you are among the last few of a species about to become extinct :) ...

8:31 PM  
Blogger tulipspeaks said...

i haven't read the blog..but i will today or during the weekend..after that, i'll back on this one..

btwn, i'm gonna blogroll u during this week..okie?

hugss


=am000nie=

10:07 PM  
Blogger anup.777 said...

Hi Amu,
Cool! Thanks! :)

I'm still working on that article on marriages... I should have it by the time u come back .... :)

Till then...

12:52 AM  
Blogger Keshi said...

lol @extinct!


Keshi.

3:16 PM  
Blogger done said...

Hello:)
Affair, that's one thing I'll never get involved in, because it's hard enough to take care of one man, I don't need another to take care of. My hubby once was almost involved in a affair, but because I handle it with "no pride", and just told him he has to figure out what he wanted, and I even invited the girl over for dinner, to show her I wasn't worried, and she did showed up(late). With all this, my hubby decided to stay with me, Yeah! I won that battle:) Take care, Elisa:)

10:04 AM  
Blogger anup.777 said...

I'm glad u won Elisa, ... but that approach may not have worked for someone else ... Anyway, I'm glad things worked out for you!

8:34 PM  
Blogger done said...

Hi:) Of course not everything works for everyone, you have to find your own way, to get through life. Good luck with your life:) and I'm glad it worked out for me also:) Take care, Elisa:)

12:38 PM  
Blogger still_figuring_out said...

i read his blog, and i can`t bring myself to accept his reasons for infidelity. there are simply no reasons that can justify a spouses`s unfaithfulness. period.

11:07 PM  
Blogger anup.777 said...

... I agree ... I told ya that I didn't condone his actions... u also do know what are my thoughts on marriage... His blog just tells us of what probably goes on in the heads of people involved in such things... nothing else....

12:42 AM  

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